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The ceremony is arguably the most important part of the wedding day. I mean, that’s the reason all of your family and friends have gathered. While it’s easy to believe that all wedding ceremonies are the same. Admittedly, they are usually similarly structured. But there are ways to personalize your wedding ceremony. Today, we want to share with you some of our favorites.
Let your officiant get to know you a little. Or, have a friend or family member be your officiant. When your officiant knows you, he/she can personalize the message to you as a couple more. Those little personal touches from the officiant are a great way to personalize your ceremony.
Kids can be such a fun touch to a wedding ceremony. They can be unpredictable, but equally adorable. You can go the traditional route by incorporating flower girls and ring bearers. They are usually between the ages of four and ten. You can also be a little more out-of-the-box and have children carry signs, blow bubbles, wave ribbon wands, or anything else you can think of!
Music can really set the tone for an event. You can choose music that means something personal to you. If you have always imagined walking down the aisle to Pachelbel’s Canon in D, then go for it! But likely, that musical piece doesn’t have any personal significance to you. You don’t have to use “wedding music” during your ceremony. Have fun with it and let your musical selections speak to who you and your future spouse are.
What is more personal than your own photos? You can display photos at the entrance of your wedding ceremony so that your guests can see photos of the two of you throughout your relationship. You can also ask family members to share their wedding photos and you can create a wall displaying all the love of the past and present.
Theirs something so nostalgic about incorporating accessories passed down. Your groom may want to wear his grandfather’s pocket watch. Perhaps you have a locket that has been passed down over the generations that you would like to wrap around your bouquet.
Do you have family members that are not able to attend or have passed away? Incorporating a little nod to those loved ones is such a sweet and meaningful gesture. There are so many ways that you can honor them. Here are just a few ideas:
This is your wedding ceremony. You can design your program however you like. Usually, you should include the order of proceedings and a list of the wedding party. But other than that, you can do whatever you want. You can include a little thank you note to the guests, share a story of how you two met, or add a favorite quote. Really the sky is the limit.
We love animals (especially Bethany)! If you have a furry family member that is really special to you, ask your venue if it alright to include them in the ceremony proceedings. You can make a little floral collar for your pup as he is walked down the aisle. Perhaps you want your fur-baby to walk you down the aisle. Or you can securely attach the rings to her back and have your pet be the ring bearer (just be sure they are well trained for this!).
Your wedding vows are a solemn promise to each other. Consider writing your own vows to each other to add a more personal touch to the wedding ceremony. Check out our post on how to write your own wedding vows to get you started.
Traditionally the bride’s guests sit on the left side of the altar and the groom’s guests sit on the right. Except for Jewish ceremonies, where it is the exact opposite. But you don’t have to go the traditional route. To give your wedding ceremony a “one big happy family” vibe, you can have your guests sit wherever they want and mingle together. You can set up some really cute signs to let your guests know that they can sit wherever they want.
This one is more for outdoor ceremonies. You can provide cute, personalized fans for your guests if it is going to be hot. If the weather will be cool, you can provide hand warmers or even embroider blankets with your names/wedding date for your guests to stay warm. You may also want to consider providing clear umbrella’s if you think it may rain.
Pinterest is full of wedding ceremony backdrop inspiration. You can go with lush florals (our personal favorite), antique doors, geometric shapes, greenery, cascading drapes. Whatever your preferences are, there is inspiration out there for you!
You may consider incorporating a unique ritual into your wedding ceremony. There are a lot of neat rituals that you can incorporate. For the sake of focus and brevity, keep it to only one ritual. These rituals include handfasting, wine ceremony, candle lighting, sand pouring, and so many more. You may also want to look into cultural and/or religious rituals that are meaningful to you, your groom, and your families.
We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again. This is your wedding, you can do it how you want it to be. Traditionally the bride’s father walks the bride down the aisle. But that doesn’t mean you have to do that. You can walk down yourself. Walk down with both your parents. Have both your father and step-dad walk you down (or have one walk you down halfway and the other the rest of the way). Walk with your brother, uncle, cousin, friend, beloved dog….. Whoever is special to you is who you should go down the aisle with. You don’t have to follow tradition just for tradition’s sake.
Now the party begins! You are officially married and the fun can commence! Start the celebrating off with a fun recessional. Let your wedding party have fun as they are coming back up the aisle. Maybe even choreograph some moves for everyone. If the wedding venue allows it, you could even have your guests toss flower petals or blow bubbles as you make your way back up the aisle.